Why do people shout in anger?
This guy, Dr Mohd Aleem Siddiqui here HEALTHYMINDS blog has an interesting take on why people shout in anger. Well, it may not be how they define anger, more importantly shouting in psychiatry since the Doc is a Psychiatrist, still there is a good moral hidden in this nugget if you pay close attention. And the story goes like this…
A saint asked his disciples, ‘Why do we shout in anger? Why do people shout at each other when they are upset?’
Disciples thought for a while, one of them said, ‘Because we lose our calm, we shout for that.”
But, why to shout when the other person is just next to you?’ asked the saint. ‘Isn’t it possible to speak to him or her with a soft voice? Why do you shout at a person when you’re angry?’
Disciples gave some other answers but none satisfied the saint.
Finally he explained, ‘When two people are angry at each other, their hearts distance a lot. To cover that distance they must shout to be able to hear each other. The angrier they are, the stronger they will have to shout to hear each other through that great distance.’
Then the saint asked, ‘What happens when two people fall in love? They don’t shout at each other but talk softly, why? Because their hearts are very close. The distance between them is very small…’
The saint continued, ‘When they love each other even more, what happens? They do not speak, only whisper and they get even closer to each other in their love. Finally they even need not whisper, they only look at each other and that’s all. That is how close two people are when they love each other.’
So, while its’ okay to get angry sometimes, and its’ okay to shout in an attempt to dominate the argument or to assert your point, make sure you do not get so distanced that it becomes impossible to get close later.
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Angie said,
Wrote on December 30, 2009 @ 10:38
mein toh hamesha se hi bolti hoh there’s no harm in shouting! good post!
Aleem said,
Wrote on January 13, 2010 @ 18:43
The above guy is me, it seems u found the post interesting. Have U joined my blog?
The link is http://healthystateofthinking.blogspot.com/
Aleem said,
Wrote on January 13, 2010 @ 18:46
By the way electricego is a nice name.
Aleem said,
Wrote on January 13, 2010 @ 19:15
Learnt a few things from ur site.. all the best
kash said,
Wrote on January 14, 2010 @ 13:42
Thanks Aleem, yeah, I found your post, the picture associated as well as the entire blog interesting.